How to Choose a Psychotherapist: Tips and Mistakes

Unlike everyday services, psychotherapy is about trust, emotional openness, and working with the most personal aspects of life. That is why choosing a specialist requires thoughtful consideration.

Why It’s Important to Choose Carefully

Psychotherapy is not a one-time conversation but a process that can last months or years. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), a successful therapeutic alliance (the relationship between client and therapist) is directly linked to treatment effectiveness.

Life example: Sarah postponed seeing a psychologist for a long time until anxiety began to interfere with her sleep and work. Her first therapist felt too distant, so after two sessions she decided to look for another. Eventually, she found a specialist with whom she felt trust and support — and that became the key to her progress.

What to Pay Attention To

1. Qualifications and Education

A psychotherapist should have proper education and training. It is important to check for certifications and licenses. Requirements differ across countries, but verifying credentials is the first step. Licensing information can be found, for example, on the World Health Organization (WHO) website.

2. Specialization and Methods

There are many therapeutic approaches: cognitive-behavioral, psychoanalytic, gestalt, systemic, and more. It’s best to choose a specialist whose methods match your needs. For example, cognitive-behavioral therapy has proven effective for anxiety disorders (PubMed).

3. Personal Trust and Comfort

Even a licensed professional may not be the right fit for you. The first sessions often feel like a “try-on” — it’s crucial to feel heard, not judged. According to Harvard Health, the subjective sense of trust is a key factor in therapy success.

Author’s comment: I believe you shouldn’t be afraid to change therapists if you feel uncomfortable after the first meetings. Psychotherapy is about trust, and trust cannot be forced. It’s better to spend time searching than to stay in therapy where you don’t feel supported.

Practical Steps to Finding a Therapist

Ask for recommendations from friends, acquaintances, or online communities.
Review therapist profiles, their approaches, and feedback.
Schedule an initial consultation (often short and affordable).
Pay attention to the atmosphere: how do you feel during the session?

Life example: Michael went to a therapist recommended by a colleague. At the first session, however, he noticed the therapist spoke too much about personal experiences. Michael decided to look for another specialist and later found one who focused on his issues. This taught him to trust his own feelings.

Mistakes to Avoid

1. Blind Trust in Credentials

Even experienced professionals may have personal limitations. Checking education is important but doesn’t guarantee compatibility.

2. Ignoring Your Own Feelings

If you feel uncomfortable, it’s a signal. Don’t continue therapy just “out of politeness.”

3. Searching for the “Perfect” Therapist

There’s no such thing as someone who is perfect for everyone from the start. The goal is not perfection but a working relationship.

Frequently Asked Questions

Question: Should I go to the most expensive specialist right away?
Answer: Price is not always an indicator of quality. Consider experience, methods, and your own comfort.

Question: How many sessions does it take to know if a therapist is right for me?
Answer: Usually 2–3 sessions are enough to assess trust and understanding.

Question: Can I change my therapist during treatment?
Answer: Yes, this is completely normal. Many people don’t find the right specialist on the first try.

Additional Resources

You can find therapists using databases and directories:

What qualities matter most to you in a specialist?
Do you agree that personal comfort is sometimes more important than credentials?
Have you ever changed a therapist because you felt something was wrong?

Disclaimer: This material is for informational purposes only and does not replace professional advice. If you experience symptoms or significant difficulties, please consult a qualified psychotherapist or physician.

How to Choose a Psychotherapist: A Practical Guide